Why We Shout In Anger?

My Dear Rishi,

It has been it has been almost three months since we have spoken. I know this shall too pass someday. Till then I will hope, pray,  send you love and positive energy.  By the way in my last letter I promised to share Honey's 13th birthday photo.  Here you go love:

Today, I was looking through some old folders and I came across an interesting article on anger.

 

Why We Shout In Anger?

 

A Hindu saint was visiting river Ganges to take bath, found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled and asked,

 " Why do we people shout in anger at each other?"

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, "Because we lose our calm, we shout". 

But why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner, asked the saint.

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples. Finally the saint explained, "When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are apart quite a distance. To cover that distance they must shout to be  able to hear each other to cover that great distance"

 

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly. Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them either non-existent or very small.  The saint continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close to two people are when they love each other". He looked at the disciples and said, " So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant. Do not say words that distance each other more. Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return."

 

 

Rishi, I hope and pray one day my love for you will over come the distance, years of negativity you have been exposed to.  I love you very much and miss you son. Let a father's love for son dissolve the years of bitterness and negativity, let our hearts connect and let there be no distance between us. This Rishi, as a father is my hope.

 

I love, all the way from here to Singapore to Moon and all the way back.   God bless you son!

 

 

With lots of love, hugs and kisses.

 

 

Love,

 

Dad

 

Your Attitude

My Dear Rishi,

How are you my love? I have been wondering how you are doing in school? What are you learning in your school? What are you reading these days?

Today after a long day at work, I decided to pick up a book and read for couple of hours. As I was reading, one thing became evident for me is that our attitude is very important in life. Life is not about what happens to us but how we deal with it inspite of what happens to us.  I still remember May of 2014 when I was about to leave Singapore. We both were very sad. But you composed yourself and said, "Daddy let's take a Happy Picture". It pretty much captures the essence of great attitude you have love. I hope and pray you continue to have the same spirit and attitude through out your life.

 

Your Attitude
By David Viscott

Your attitude shapes your world.
When you intimidate others, you live in a fearful world.
When you are sad, you bring out the hopelessness in others.
When you express support, you live in other's affection.

When you act like a child, you evoke a parental attitude.
When you act like a parent, you inspire both rebellion and helplessness.
When you act dependent, you invite others to abuse you.
 They resent you for smothering them.

When you act controlling, you lead people to use you.
They think you have it coming for treating them unfairly.
When you act competitively, others want to beat you for putting them down.

Your attitude creates obstacles that you have to overcome and all your luck breaks.
No one wants to help a braggart, and everyone wants to repay the person who makes him or her feel good.

The person who makes you feel good is free, has no need to control or own you, can admire your achievements without envy, and can be giving without expecting anything in return.

Your pattern of choices becomes your attitude. When you choose to hold in feelings, you become bitter. When you are expressive, you become free.

Being free is letting others be free.
In this world you get what you give.

The best way to summarize this letter to your and demonstrate the importance of attitude, I would like you to watch this video.    

http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-31098225

 

Rishi, may you have a wonderful attitude, may you have a wonderful life, may your life be a beacon for others, may your attitude reach every dark corner of this humanity and light up.

 

I love you very much and miss you. I love you from here all the way to the Singapore, to the moon and back. Love, I miss you so much!

 

 

With lots of love, hugs and kisses,

 

Daddy.

 

P.S;  Honey celebrated her 13th birthday on Feb. 11th.  I will add her picture in the next letter.