Judgement

 July 09th, 2011

My Dear Rishi,

Today evening I wanted to do something different and went to see an Opera at United Church on College and Bathurst. By the way this is the same place your mommy and I used to take Honey for her Doggy classes.

Today I was pondering about "Judgement". We all love to judge others, but when someone judges us we become very defensive or aggressive towards the other person. Hopefully one day just the way I realized, you may also realize that all unhappiness stems from a very simple judgement that is, " this is bad" or this is wrong".  I have learned one thing in life is that if you must judge, than walk in other person's shoes for few minutes. Since this is impossible, so just accept people for who they are.  Just let it be and be happy, be kind, be compassionate, be loving. If you are unhappy about something in life, just ask yourself, "What am I judging? Who am I judging? Who am I to judge? Why do I need to judge?".. Today's story is about Judgement.

Judgement

There once was a man who never lost his smile.  One day he lost his job. "This is bad news,"said his colleagues. The man smiled, "It is," he said. Within a week he found a job that paid double his previous wage. "This is good news," said his friends.

The man smiled, "It is" he said.

On the first day of his new job, the man who never once lost his smile spoke up to disagree with his new boss. "This is bad news," said his new colleagues. The man smiled, "It is," he said. The next day, his new boss commended the man for being honest and forthright with his opinions.

"This is good news," said his colleagues.

The man smiled ,"It is," he said.

A month later, the man who never once lost his smile was badly inured in a terrible car crash. He was hospitalised for six moths as a result. "What bad news," said his friends said. "It is," the man said, still managing to smile. He received a fiver-figure settlement for his injury.  "What a great news," his friends said.  The man smiled, "It is, " he said.

A year later, the man never lost his smile lost all his money as the stock exchanged collapsed.

"Bad luck," said his friends. "It is," the man said, and still he smiled. Soon after he was laid off from his job. "Bad times," commiserated his friends.

"It is," said the man, who had now lost everything, except his smile. His friends, amazed that the man was still able to smile, asked, "How can you still smile when things are so "bad?" The man replied, "I see nothing as "bad". His friends countered, "But when we commiserate and say "Too bad" you say "It is," you agree" ."No," said the man. "When you say "bad" or "good.  I simply say "It is," and in doing so I am practicing acceptance and freedom from judgement. It's because I don't get caught up in judgement that I can always attend to keep my smile".

Rishi when you see, you don't see as it is, you always see your judgement of it. When this happens, it is lack of acceptance and openness that causes you so much pain. Pain is a choice, suffering is optional.

When ever I come to see you in Singapore, you come running to me with open arms and give me a hug. There is so much love in you sweetheart, there is so much joy. You know why Rishi, because you are free from judgement, you are pure joy, pure love, you are happy, happy, happy..  Thank you Rishi for your hugs and so much love. I love you Rishi.

Here is something for you to ponder on:

Fear, without judgement, is love.

Anger, without judgement, is love.

Guilt, without judgement, is love.

Depression, without judgement, is love.

Jealousy, without judgement, is love.

Hate, without judgement is love.

Anxiety, without judgement is love.

Sadness, without judgement is love.

Pain, without judgement is love.

Love, without judgement is love.

Another way of saying the samething for each of the above words is that you drop the judgement, drop the story you associate with each word, the only thing left is LOVE. You are that love. True love is free from judgement. When you are free from judgement, you are accepting and there is openess. Rishi, your heart and mind are like parachute, they work best when they are open.

With lots of love, hugs and kisses,

Daddy